A Creator-based® Life

Family & Relationships: ‘Peace in Diversity'  #2 Different is not Deficient.   We are different by design. Immersed in our culture with all of the media influences and business of life, it’s easy to be swayed into opinions and expectations in our relationships. What did your culture of origin dictate? Our childhood experiences and modeling, like clay, blends colors and categories into something that feels permanent.  (It’s not, and we can help you change it). What categories were you taught in society, school, or home? What core beliefs were modeled in your childhood?   We each have family culture, community, church, and educational cultures.  They all impress upon us in their own way the way things “should” be.  This impacts our current family and relationship expectations. We form thoughts of how our family and relationships “should” be.  But are they accurate? And what happens when the family or relationship is different from our picture? Trouble.  Judgment. Distance.

  Ya know, it must just be a fall thing.   Almost exactly a year ago, I wrote a blog post on creating confidence.   Interestingly, it has come up again.   Maybe it’s because August and September feel very much like a second New Year.   With the beginning of school at age 5, every year, we have prepared and shifted the way we live out our days. We end summer with its long, languishing fun and begin the structure of school. It’s a second New Year. With the changes in this second New Year, some of us also need a second boost of confidence. Remember when you were a kid, getting ready to start a new school year? I always got new shoes and a stern warning to take good care of them because they have to last all year. My Mom reviewed with me how to polish my shoes, waterproof and preserve the leather.   Yeah- that was a long time ago, but a good memory. I often got new school outfits and some new pencils, maybe even a book bag!   It was an exciting time.   Still, I worried about school startin